Relationships are hard, and anyone who’s been in a relationship can tell you it takes work. Couples counseling has helped millions of people to develop a stronger relationship with their partner and keep their relationships intact. In fact, according to IBISWorld, the market size, measured by revenue, of the family counseling and crisis intervention services industry is $51.1 billion in 2023. However, counseling isn’t a magic wand that solves all of your problems. Counseling is also work, and it’s important to know how to do that work and make counseling accomplish what you need it to. Here are a few tips on how to get the most out of relationship counseling.

Work on Yourself

Many couples come into counseling convinced that all of their relationship problems are because of the other person. This is often not entirely the case, though. In most relationships, both parties have areas they can work on. Taking accountability for yourself and the part you play in the relationship is essential to getting the help you need.

Share Vulnerability About the Relationship

The first step toward healing a damaged relationship is to share the vulnerability of how you want to work on it. This sounds simple, but some couples never actually reach this stage. Instead, they avoid the issue and express anger instead of vulnerability, and the relationship falls into a destructive cycle. To say, “I want to save this relationship,” shows vulnerability, and it’s often a powerful way to start the communication process with the other partner.

Choose a Therapist Together

If one partner chooses the therapist, makes the appointments, and tries to force the other partner into participating, this will only result in further negativity in the relationship. If an imbalance of power is one of the issues, then this will also further complicate that dynamic. It’s best if both partners work together to choose a therapist that works.

Choose a Qualified Therapist

You need to do your research when you’re looking for a therapist for couples counseling. Like all professionals, there are great therapists and not-so-great therapists. It really pays off to do your homework and make sure you choose the right person.

Ask Friends and Family to Be Supportive in the Right Ways

When it becomes apparent that a couple is struggling, it’s natural for others involved with the couple to start choosing sides. Friends and family may think they are being supportive when in fact they are making cracks in the relationship deeper and more destructive. Request that these people support you as a couple rather than pitting one against the other.

Keeping the above advice in mind will help you get the most out of your couples counseling experience. If you’d like to learn more or schedule an appointment, please contact Relationship Renovation today. We are here to help you on this journey.