There are so many different ways to work on being your best self. If you do not have a full cup, you will have nothing left to give to your partner. Find the actions you can take that fill your cup.

Self-care looks like protecting your time and energy and being able to say no when you are getting overwhelmed and have too much on your plate. It is saying yes to something fun and joyful when you may worry you don’t have the mental or emotional space. It is essential to create internal space for joy. Nourish your mind, body, and soul. Read the books that make you feel alive. Eat the foods that energize you. Move your body in ways you love. Fill your soul with what lights you up.

When you are firing on all cylinders and feeling your best self, this is contagious to your partner. They feel your energy, and the excitement of it has the potential to inspire them. When you have a secure base with your partner, you are freed up to fly and be your best selves, always returning to that safe home base. All the work you do on yourself pays dividends to that base.

When you both treat yourself like the royalty that you are, you are more likely to treat each other with that kind of reverence. Getting caught up in the daily grind of life and feeling like there is no time for radical self-care is easy. The truth is there is no time not to offer yourself this kindness. You are worth it. You deserve it. You only have one beautiful life. Why not make the most of it?