Relationships go through ruts as the years pass. Sometimes, life gets busy as children are added to the household, and relationships can lack intimacy. You may feel as though you and your partner aren’t connected anymore. These tips from a couples therapist can help you bridge the gap to feel closer to your partner again.
1. Couples Therapy
If you’re planning to get married, consider premarital counseling. According to Verywell Health, couples who attend premarital counseling are 30% likelier to remain married than couples who don’t. Therapy can help you learn tools to keep you connected as a couple. Therapists will work with you and your partner to develop an individualized treatment plan.
2. Alone Time
Spending time with just your partner is essential to maintain intimacy in a relationship. Going on a date night can be challenging when you have children. Still, staying focused on your relationship as a couple is necessary instead of letting your relationship revolve around the children. Enjoy a movie night after the kids go to bed or find a babysitter to get out of the house once a week.
3. Clear Communication
Communication is essential to having a healthy relationship. For example, a partner may not know something they do upsets you or hurts your feelings. Not communicating correctly can breed resentment, which causes a gap between you and your partner. Set aside time to have honest talks. A couples therapist can help you and your partner learn how to communicate effectively.
4. Show Appreciation
Gratitude is often overlooked in long-term relationships. People don’t think about saying thank you and usually don’t appreciate each other as the years pass. While common, it can make you and your partner feel disconnected. Express gratitude. Show each other affection regularly.
5. Couple Goals
Setting goals with each other can help you stay connected. These can be either long or short-term goals. Career goals are common relationship goals. You and your partner can make a bucket list of places you want to travel to and work on seeing one landmark at a time. Relationship goals can revolve around the relationship, such as spending time together or communicating regularly.
Staying connected can be challenging. However, a professional couples therapist can help you and your partner learn how to stay close. Relationship Renovation offers individualized treatment plans to help you and your partner address the issues in your relationship. Contact us when you’re ready to feel closer to your partner again.